Remember that time I became a proud car owner and three days later a tree fell on my car? True story. After reading this book and then weeks of searching and budgeting and doing my homework, I decided the best option was to buy out my current lease. Great safe well-kept car. Great deal. I sent in my final car payment last week and became a very proud car owner. I wanted to shout it to the mountaintops, I’m a responsible adult with no more car payments! Yahoo!!! Then, Saturday night, we had a freak wind storm and… I watched as a giant piece of tree crashed down on my newly-purchased flawless vehicle. All I could do was laugh. I buy car. Tree falls on it. And my first thought was, Well, that’s what God thinks of pride. He literally dinged it all up. The car will be fine and is still perfectly drivable, but this was a big lesson. Well, there were a lot of lessons and amazing blessings in this wind storm (like becoming friends with the neighbor where the tree came from and too many other surprising great things to name in a single post!). Now, I hope a tree never falls on your car, but here are some great things that came of this and things we learned:
1. I pray for God to humble me every day. My ego and insecurities can get in the way of the truly good stuff a lot. Sometimes, our prayers are answered in unexpected ways. Enter Mr. Tree. Very funny, God! You may have read that I was getting rid of this car as part of simplifying my life this year. I was excited to let go of my fancy sports car and, when it turned out it was a better financial move to just buy out my lease rather than buy another used car, Ari and I were honestly a little sad. We wanted a car that would humble us and put our heads in the right place. Thank you, Mr. Tree.
2. (my motto in life right now) Focus on what matters. My car is still drivable and the only thing that changed was the exterior. That doesn’t affect the interior in the least. You get my figurative point here.
3. No matter how dinged up your life feels or how flawed you feel, you still have gas in your tank, a road map and a rear view mirror to glance at how far you’ve come. And your engine can get you a lot farther than you give it credit for.
All car references aside, the bottom line is that being “flawed” doesn’t mean you are 100% useless. How many times do you catch yourself thinking that?? You are human. You will make mistakes. Sometimes really big ones. But, the biggest mistake you can make is to think you aren’t worth anything because of those “mistakes” and “flaws”. We so easily jump to repair every single imperfection instead of seeing the beauty right in front of us. Yes, I’m talking to you. I see far too many people doing this, including myself. I get down on myself. I make a mistake and I beat myself up. Friends, be present. Be grateful for what you do have. You are enough just as you are and owning your own dings will make you so much more compassionate with others. Be kind to yourself. You are remarkable, “flaws” and all. - Lara
P.S. Don’t park your car under a dead tree in a wind storm.